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Live your life

My absolute favourite song. That I don’t know what the rest of the song says, or that it may not go with what I have attributed to it or what I get from it is also irrelevant. It’s the first line that I just blows me away. Live your life. Such a simple and yet profound statement. Live your life.
The very first time I heard it I asked myself, ‘Who’s life am I living?’ And I was surprised when I unpacked that question for myself. I used to think I was living my life, proudly at that. I knew who I was, I loved what I was doing. But when I looked deep into myself so as to live my life, I realised that what I thought was my life was not really my life.
I asked myself the following questions:
Who am I?
What is my favourite colour?
What is my favourite song?
What do I like?
What don’t I like?
What is my favourite song?
What do I want to do with my life?
What makes me happy?
Does this make me happy?
Why am I doing this?
I then asked the people in my life at the time the same questions about me and I was surprised at the answers. The answers given by the people close to me did not match my answers. The answers given by the people I thought were more distant to me matched my answers more closely.
Which made me realise that I was not who I thought I was. That perhaps I had been pretending to be someone I was not. That perhaps my environment had conditioned or dictated who I was.
After I got over the initial shock of ‘Oh my word I have no idea who I am!’, I made a plan to start being deliberate about living my life.
I started listening to more songs I loved, more people I loved. I started wearing more of my favourite clothes and colours. I started being deliberate about doing more of the things that sparked me and less of what others expected of me and I loved it.
Yes, I lost a lot of friends along the way, but honestly, I was happier being myself, I was happier not pretending, I was happier not watching what I said or did around certain people. I was living my life and I am still living my life. I was more focused, more driven. I was in charge of my life.
Yes, I was sad, extremely sad when I realised I would not be able to take some people with me on my self finding mission. But I realised that if I was not myself around them, then perhaps they were also not themselves around me. It was a win win for all parties involved. We had all gotten something from the relationship, the time spent and resources shared. Now it was time to move on to other people. To touch other people’s lives. To make new friends. To grow into a better version of ourselves.
Don’t assume you are living your life. Be deliberate or intentional about living your life on a daily basis.
Spend more time with yourself. Evaluate your life. What sparks joy in your life? What resonates with you more. Do more of that. Fall in love with yourself more and more. Be authentic.

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